1 – Don’t send messages to your ex-spouse through the kids Your children have been through some major changes- mom and dad not living together, divorce, and now visitation back and forth between the houses. They do not need to be involved in adult discussions or arguments. 2 – Keep contact to a minimum One
Do you have a child who is super angry and can’t seem to find the right words to express herself? Or she isn’t exactly sure why she is feeling the way she is? Try this simple tool: 1. On a piece of drawing paper have your child write all the things that are making her
We often talk of people being affected by divorce, but now there’s a warning that we can be infected by it as well! It’s not about physical health, or catching something truly nasty, though there is ample evidence to suggest people can be made physically ill when a difficult divorce takes its toll. What we
Working out a schedule to accommodate their children’s summer holidays can be a gruelling task for most divorced parents. Co-parents who can work together to meet the individual needs of their children are much more successful with formulating mutually agreed upon plans. Here are seven guidelines for making your co-parenting summer holidays fun for everyone:
Money is a core concern of any divorce experience. Most people think of money in terms of dollars and cents and making the “right” financial choices. However, money is a much more complex part of our lives and has the power to trigger potent subjective emotions in everyone. Money symbolizes different things to different people
While going through divorce is no walk in the park, as men seeking to be better men we can influence the dissolution process so that a more collaborative result can occur. We can begin to consider a higher context that will serve us, our children, and our soon to be former spouse in lasting decisions that effect everyone.
Co-parenting starts the day the decision is made to divorce has been made. Even the most amicable divorces need a plan for future co-parenting. Putting your children’s best interests first, no matter how much you may dislike their other parent, is the key to co-parenting.
As a mediator, I work a lot with divorcing, separating and never married couples who, for the best interests of their children, must agree on a child support amount that makes for both of them. In IL, where I practice, child support is based on a straight % of the payers “net” income, the more
